Remaining Safe whilst dating using dating sites. A guide!
Remainaing safe is the most important thing to consider whilst pursuing your interests in online dating. This begins with considering the identity of your location and the accessability of that to those people you are connected to / communicating with whilst online! Considering the level of civilisation that you currently reside in you will want to consider cultural norms in your location, online security in your country of residence and this may entail the use of encryption software and hardware devices to completely deny access by any person or website to finding out your location whilst you are online and these security devices and options are available for all devices, mobile, desktop, tablet……! So! Having secured the security of your location you will want to take care in your profile biog, and various other details that you are not inadvertently giving away your location.
(PLEASE NOTE: IT IS THE ACTIVITIES OF A VERY SMALL NUMBER OF PEOPLE WHO ARE DANGEROUS WHICH IS MAKING IT ABSOLUTELY EEESENTIAL FOR ALL OF US TO TAKE STRINGENT STEPS TO SECURE OUR SAFETY WHILST ONLINE)
Simple things like referencing locations in your auto-biography may seem very obvious but you must start with the simple things that you can control. Some people are using bitcoin to pay for services because then personal details can be withheld even from wesite administrators and thus ensuring complete annonymity!
Ok, so you’ve taken these steps and you’ve joined sites wether that be an adult dating site or sex dating site or whichever site you have decided to join, but are you safe when you meet people in person? What do you do if your are assualted through messages sent to you via your online profile. Use your common sense and be practicle, does the site you are using have a blocking facility, so that you can impose a no contact ever again rule on any person who you wish to remove access to you from. Simply blocking these aggressive or passive aggressive types removes the problem in a completely decisive way! But what if you are meeting people in real life, and that is not unusual and what if it goes horribly wrong.
(PLEASE NOTE: there is a difference between a grooming type of person who will gradually push the boundaries and slowly become abusive towards you. YOU MUST ALWAYS BE ALERT TO THIS TYPE OF GROOMING. Then you have the aggressive uncalculating sexual predator who is simply attempting to meet you 1 time for 1 thing and that is to sexually assault. IMPORTANT DISTINCTION BETWEEN Just 2 of the many types out there)
This is why you have got to research and read and learn about your interactions with people and how you can stay safe! You cannot frankly over prepare for this and you should be reassessing you safetly protocols once per month. WHO ARE YOU SPEAKING TO?
This blog is a guide initially exploring some topics! Please research and please be safe!
Very very best wishes!
Rugby Rep Dating and Relationships Editor!
